Wander with me…

I wanted to share with you a couple of posts that I found to be encouraging and/or thought-provoking this past week.

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One of my new favorite blogs to read is Homekeeping Heart. This past Tuesday, Jennifer wrote the most encouraging, uplifting post about mothering that I’ve read in a long time entitled I love my life!

She says:

If you are looking for someone to gripe with about being “stuck at home” with kids and cooking and cleaning and laundry or to whine about the agony of pregnancy or the toil of caring for babies, you have come to the wrong place! I LOVE my life!


Hop on over there and read it.  It’ll bring a smile to your face for sure.

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I’ve mentioned here on a number of occassions how much I benefit from reading Ann’s writing at her blog, Holy Experience. She often writes her posts in the form of stories, or parables – stories from her own life as the wife of a farmer and mother of 6 children. I like to share many of her stories with my daughters when the topic is one that they can grasp. One of Ann’s recent posts was one that captured their attention…and mine.

Here are PART ONE and PART TWO of the post entitled “Power Source”. I hope that it will touch your heart as it did mine as I think of the families we were placed into.

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Finally, in my Mom’s Corner article for May , Teri Maxwell gives some good food for thoughts as she answers this question from a reader:

“I was wondering if you have advice on whether or not (and how much if so) to read the news. I find it can be so discouraging to read truthfully and yet know that we should have some awareness of what is going on in the world. I’d love to hear advice on how your family manages in this area.”

I tended to agree with some of Teri’s points, especially,

Somehow, we find out about major happenings in the world, our nation, and our local community. For example, the economic crisis our country is experiencing is discussed regularly as we interact with others in our town. When there was a plane crash, it was being talked about in the checkout line at the grocery store. However, we have discovered that people don’t usually tend to discuss publicly the evil and wicked crimes that are described in detail in the news.

I’d be curious to hear what you think about this topic after you go over there and read her short article. I, too, wrote a post about this topic long ago, before I had any readers to share their thoughts with me. :) If you’d like to read it, you can find it HERE.

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Happy reading!

Published in:  on May 17, 2009 at 9:01 pm Leave a Comment

Children: Blessing or drain?

I heard an amazing comment at a gathering awhile ago. It was in response to my mother asking a young newly married man how many children he and his wife would like to have. He responded that they would love to have many children, but they weren’t sure with how bad things are today.

When I asked him whether he meant the financial burden of raising children or the evil world we live in, he said both. He went on to explain:

You see, back in Bible times, it was an agricultural society, so children WERE a blessing back then. They actually contributed to the family income. Today, there just aren’t enough jobs for people, because so many jobs are service jobs instead of industry jobs.

He was quick to add:

Of course, we still think children are a blessing. I mean, we love them and everything – but they aren’t a blessing in the same way [note by me: and therefore, should be limited].

At that moment in time, I chose not to address his issue about children being a financial burden, but rather chose to focus on the issue of bringing children into the evil society that we live in, as it seemed more important to me at the moment.

I wonder how you would have responded to this young man and his claim that children are more of a drain (financially) on families than a blessing in our modern society.

Do you agree with him? Why or why not?

Published in:  on February 12, 2009 at 2:51 pm Comments (6)

A simpler life

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Dan and I have been pondering and discussing the concept of a “simpler life” for several years now. While I’m not sure we can define it clearly, it contains the following ideas:

  • less stuff
  • less reliance upon others for things we could just as easily do ourselves (thus eliminating quite a bit of shopping and driving)
  • more space to witness and experience God’s creation – after all, this is one of the big ways in which He reveals Himself to mankind
  • more time for the everlasting things – relationships with our family members and neighbors
  • more time for thinking – meditating on Scripture or spending time in prayer
  • preparing and eating more simple meals – just plain ‘ole food – made to taste good with natural flavorings like herbs and spices

I recently found a book on our shelf that I had purchased at a library book sale, but had never read entitled The Seasons of America Past by Eric Sloane. While it provides a fascinating look at the month-by-month seasonal activities of early American families, the first two chapters entitled “Speeding up the Seasons” and “Agrarian Kindergarten” offered the most thought-provoking ideas for me personally.

Mr. Sloane talks about how we’ve lost the rhythm of seasons in our modern society. He doesn’t mean the 4 seaons – spring, summer, fall, winter – but a season as defined by early American dictionaries:

season: 1. a time to every purpose (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

               2. one of the quarters of the year 

In Noah Webster’s first dictionary, published in 1828, he defined “season” simply as “a fit time”, completely leaving out the other part of the definition.

A time (season) for everything is quite foreign to us today. We eat fresh watermelon in January and go to an indoor ice-skating arena in August. The anticipation and ensuing enjoyment of each season’s unique activities and foods is lessened when we can have anything, anywhere, at any time, don’t you think? By trying to live a ”simpler life”, we are, in essence, trying to put things back into their proper seasons. We are attempting to learn how to experience things in their real context, not in an artifically manufactured one.

Mr. Sloane also talks about our fast-paced society and the perceived benefits thereof. But what about the detrimental effects? Are there any?

Another sad thing about unnaturally rapid progress is that it so often results in actual regression.  When any group progresses as whole, there becomes less apparent need for individual intelligence. By having others think for us and design our work and pleasure, we now live comfortably without certain knowledges that only a century ago were essential. In losing our need to know so many things, our list of general knowledge has at last become exceedingly small; it equips us well for business, less well for the sciences, and very poorly for living the full life.

- The Seasons of America Past, page 15

I know that some people dismiss the idea of  trying to pursue a “simpler life” for various reasons, including:

  1. It’s  just a romantic idea
  2. It’s too much work
  3. It’s too boring
  4. It’s eccentric to do so (Ok, let’s just say it – it’s WEIRD)

But lately I’ve been seriously pondering this question: what advantage we have given ourselves (and our children) by living a fast-paced, highly processed-fast food, entertainment saturated life? I don’t think in and of itself there is anything sacred or elite about trying to live a “simpler life”. However, when you begin to subtract the above mentioned things that can be detrimental to a person’s well-being, by default you end up living one. Either something has to seep in and fill up the void left by those other things (such as other pursuits/hobbies in place of entertainment) or something additional must be done (preparing your own meals). This really is how a “simpler life” has come about in our family.

To us, choosing a “simpler life” does not mean that we turn our noses up at modern conveniences or things like medical assistance. Personally, I don’t want to be like a pioneer woman who has to draw my household water from the creek! :-P

We all have to do something with the allotted time given to live our lives. Most of us in America do things with an intended outcome of finding or experiencing “happiness”. After all, our own Declaration of Independence tells us that we have the right to the “pursuit of happiness”!

But could it be that the “pursuit of happiness” means something different to Americans now than it did in earlier times? Eric Sloane offers this:

Then ["happiness"] meant “blessedness”, or “a state of satisfaction or contentment”, but now it suggests fun. The “pursuit of happiness” which we accept as an American heritage is, it seems, too often mistaken for a pursuit of fun.

…Carl Sandburg [said] that “Never was a generation…told by a more elaborate system of the printed word, billboards, newspapers, magazines, radio, television – to eat more, play more, have more fun.” This, we are led to believe, is an American way, and a recipe for contentment.

- The Seasons of America Past, p. 8

Dan and I have asked ourselves this question:

“Does our lifestyle produce an atmosphere where contentment and happiness are actually possibilities and not just rainbows to chase?”

Although true happiness and contentment ultimately come from our relationship with God, we’re finding that when we are able to unplug from the messages of discontentment that we are constantly bombarded with in this world, we are afforded a more fertile ground for this happiness to flourish.

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Photos: Dan working in the yard this summer; a walk in a nearby state game area

(I just figured out how to link my pictures so that when you click on them, you can see them bigger. Just so you know. :) )

Published in:  on January 23, 2009 at 3:46 pm Comments (1)

Bearing one another’s burdens

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This weekend I was very blessed to have a sister in Christ help bear a particular burden of mine.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had the tendency to gloss over this verse as a nicety:

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ

~ Galations 6:2

Have you ever had such a heavy burden on your heart/mind that you feel it is just unbearable? To have someone just come alongside and listen, and then to share good, sound words is possibly the most precious gift in the realm of friendship.

Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad. 

 ~  Proverbs 12:25

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold
      In settings of silver.
Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold
      Is a wise rebuker to an obedient ear. 

~ Proverbs 25:11-12

The Contemporary English Version says it this way:

The right word at the right time

is like precious gold set in silver.

Listening to good advice is worth much more

than jewelry made of gold.

Showing empathy and speaking timely words to a friend may seem like small things to offer, but  they are priceless to the recipient.

Thank you, friend.

[Art print: Best Friends by Hans Brendelkilde]

Published in:  on January 19, 2009 at 4:18 pm Comments (1)

Sometimes I just don’t feel like it

This morning I looked longingly at the coziness of my bed as I smoothed down the sheets and blankets. The early hour did not afford even the slightest glimmer of light through my easterly window. I thought to myself how nice it would be to just climb back in and “take it easy” for another hour or two. My reasoning went something like this…

Why not?

Why can’t I just jump back in? Why do I always have to get up early and DO things?

When do I ever get to sleep in – or lounge around and read a book – or just lay on the couch and do nothing? (that last one’s pretty funny, huh?)

What’s wrong with being lazy, anyway?

I knew however, that if I went back to bed like I thought I deserved at that very moment, the rest of my morning and possibly, day, would unravel. If I got started on the animal chores late, then dinner would not get into the crockpot on time, then breakfast would be late, then we would start school late, etc. Even though I knew this, I just didn’t feel like getting going.

As I finished making the bed, however, the answer to my silly questions came to me as I recalled scriptures pertaining to laziness and slothfulness, scriptures pertaining to serving others instead of serving myself, and scriptures about working 6 days and resting on the 7th.

I headed downstairs, still not feeling convinced that I shouldn’t be back up in bed. However, as the morning progressed smoothly, I was glad that I pulled myself out of bed on time.

Do you ever struggle with self-discipline? Do you ever find yourself saying “I just don’t feel like it” like I did this morning? Fortunately, I was able to draw upon the good habits and good words of wisdom that I had put into place beforehand to help overcome my battle (albeit small) of laziness this morning.

Many people desire the trait of self-discipline, but may not be willing to take the steps to actually achieve it, as it is not an instant thing. How is self-discipline acquired, anyhow? John MacArthur offers some good insight into the development of self-discipline in this article, taken from his book The Pillars of Christian Character.

Personally, although I know that I should have self-discipline, sometimes it’s hard to actually do the right thing. Sometimes I just don’t feel like it. :-P

Do you have the self-discipline it takes to accomplish your goals for the new year or even just for today?

How have you developed self-discipline in your own life? Tell me about it!

Related resources:

This webpage has all sorts of quotes about self-discipline worth reading.

Frog and Toad offer up some deep thoughts on the topic of self-discipline in the story called ”Cookies” from the book Frog and Toad Together. :)

Published in:  on January 7, 2009 at 2:50 pm Comments (2)

Do you Facebook?

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I’ve had a Facebook account for a few weeks now so that I can stay in touch with my out-of-state brother and sister. It doesn’t have anything cool on it – not even a picture of myself.

To be totally honest, I haven’t added any pictures because I don’t really want anyone to recognize me and add me as a friend…

It’s not that I’m anti-social. A few years ago, I had a MySpace account, with which I was able to catch up with many of my long-lost acquaintances. Unfortunately, I soon grew weary of the limited way of communicating that seems to come with a MySpace account. I also got tired of the horrible advertisements that I had to look at whenever I went to sign in. Several other reasons all added up to my cancelling my account.

When I opened my FB account a few weeks ago, I didn’t go searching for people that I know. I didn’t want to get involved in the whole social networking thing again. I only have about 4 or 5 friends ((waves to them)). However, this past weekend, I somehow or another wound up surfing through my friends’ friends, friends, friends lists – you know how that goes if you have FB – and it seems like EVERYONE THAT I KNOW has a FaceBook account!

I found several people on there that I was never able to find on MySpace that I would love to take a peek at and see how they’re doing. 

The “problem” with Facebook is that you have to be listed as a friend of the person to view their profile and pictures. So, I can’t just be nosy and look at pictures of old high school friends, for example. :P

So, I’m in a quandry. Do I get all involved in Facebook like I did in MySpace? Is it worth it to spend all sorts of time adding pictures and information to my profile, adding people to my friends list, writing on their wall and exchanging trite little messages back and forth? I regret the amount of time that I spent wasted when I had a MySpace account, even though it was GREAT to catch up with a certain few people.

Or should I just let those people who have slipped through the cracks of time in my life well alone? (i.e., not be so nosy!)

What do you think? Do you have a Facebook account? Do you think it’s worth spending time on? Why or why not?

Published in:  on January 6, 2009 at 3:19 pm Comments (4)

The big things

Considering how many big issues are swirling around the country this fall, you might wonder why I don’t talk too much about them on this blog. I know that many people are very concerned about the state of things here in the U.S. I share the concerns of many of you. I stand in awe as things continue to deteriorate before our very eyes. It’s so easy to get caught up in the all of the news headlines, even if you don’t watch the news. People are talking, talking, talking – everywhere you go.

Although I have been praying fervently about the different issues, I then leave them with God to focus on smaller things.

Little things in life may seem less significant with all the problems we face today, but I believe that they can be some of the most important. Things like loving those who treat me wrongfully, reaching out with a good attitude when I’m having a bad day, teaching my children how to put others first, and learning to be patient in trials. Things like studying God’s creation to know Him better and finding things to be thankful for in each and every moment. Things like nurturing relationships with my husband and children, with my parents and church family, with my neighbors and friends. These little things all add up to big things over time.

Sometimes I doubt my approach when people start (eloquently) wringing their hands about the troubled times in which we live. Maybe I’m just not sophisticated enough to get into all the political/social/theological debates that are circling around out there. Maybe I should focus on these issues more.

It’s just that I can’t help but thinking about the fact that evil has been in the world ever since the beginning of time. Of course, things are going to get exponentially worse, but things have pretty much remained the same for followers of God -

What does the Lord require of you? To act justly, and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God (Micah 6:8)

Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Matthew 22:37-39)

Loving others, glorifying God and growing in character are things that will last eternally. When all the current issues have passed us by, what will remain? Our relationship with God and man – love – and essence of who we are – our character.

I don’t want to negate Christians who speak out on the big issues. After all, many of them are so much more articulate than I am.

Personally, I have chosen to try and take a simpler path. After all, I only have so much time in each day and I have a choice as to what I will spend that time thinking about. Am I alert to the trends in our society? Yes. Do I speak the truth in love when asked about issues by my friends and relatives? Yes. Do I wring my hands? I try not to. It’s scary sometimes, especially when our country’s political and social issues impact us personally. I choose instead to continually refocus on God, as He is the one in control.  If I focus on the things our Lord has given us to do, I know that I will be pursuing thoughts that are worthwhile.

And in the end, it may turn out that the little things that we thought were insignificant are actually the big things!

[If you ever feel like you need some encouragement in focusing on the little things, stop by Eyes of Wonder. Every time I visit there, I come away with a better focus. I'm so thankful that Jewels shares the ways she peacefully and lovingly takes care of her family while resting on God's care for her.]

Published in:  on November 7, 2008 at 5:18 pm Comments (1)

Boring conversation?

Last night at the dinner table, we were discussing one of the prophetic Psalms. We read about how powerful God is and all the things that He is capable of – of how He will put an end to war and bring peace. As we talked about how powerful God is and why we should trust Him, Abigail piped up with this question:

If God is so powerful, then why doesn’t He come down and stop all the bad things from happening right now?

If anyone thinks that staying at home and talking to children all day is not stimulating, I’d beg to differ. My children amaze me with the questions that they pose. It really shouldn’t surprise me, however. After all, they are just small, inexperienced people – but people just the same. And all people have the same big questions, don’t we?

Published in:  on October 31, 2008 at 4:49 pm Leave a Comment